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人际游击战争

Mon, 13 Oct 2008 04:50:01 GMT

问题是，从来人们就没有耐心去了解一个人或一件事。前段时间我总去全国各地放DV，遇到了很多人，我最常听到的一句话：你跟你在博客上的感觉是两个人。我觉得，你看到我真人的感觉跟我博客上的感觉都不是我，其他人也一样，你看到的老六也不是博客上的老六，你看到的罗老也不是博客上的老罗，你看到的你爹也不是你亲爹，你看到的你奶奶也不是你亲奶奶。但你看到的土摩托一定是博客上的土摩托，哈哈。我从来就不通过文字去判断人，因为我是写字的，文字的欺骗性太大。或者是我做记者多年，心里练就了一种意识，就是从来不太敢相信别人的文字和话语。尤其是，在你有生之年一定要记住这样一句话——网上的东西怎么也能信呢？有些东西你要通过整体了解才能下判断，但这又是矛盾的，谁他妈没事对你王小峰李小峰张小峰感兴趣呢，你提供什么信息我就按什么信息作判断，而且现在是一个做事不过脑子的年代，人们都喜欢下结论或作分析。比如我每次看留言都有这样的感受，原来他是这么看我，她是那么看我。慢慢这些看法就在我面前形成一道防火墙——其实你们说的跟我本人无关。

每个人对他人的理解和解释最终都会变成马赛克中的一块，它越多越清晰，但永远不会变成最真实的一个具象。

人类一直是有交流障碍的，哪怕面对面坐着说话，也一样有障碍，更何况今天通过网络信息做间间间接交流呢，这就跟一个排的人从前往后传话一样，传过几个人就走样。但是人们乐此不疲按照走样的方式继续这种游戏。信息时代人们捆绑得更紧密了，让本来无关的人都联系在了一起，但是心里的屏障却越来越厚了。以前不认识你，就当这世界上没有你。现在我认识了你，就当这世界上多了一个更不认识的你。

roommate wanted from July on

Wed, 09 Apr 2008 04:20:19 GMT

I'm looking for a new roommate and right now I have a handful of applicants, way above my expected quantity and quality. I think this is the benefit from giving up the sole reliance on the Chinese community. It's small here anyway. Consider sampling from the 50,000 Chinese in Montreal as opposed to the 1000000.... in North America (I got applicants from Southern U.S.), it's simple as that.

My previous housing bumps were probably the consequences of my exclusive focus on rent and expense, and more implicit cultural preference (Chinese). History is inevitable/irreversible. That's fine. Costs are more than financial. Money is meant to be earned, not saved. But people are politically expensive. Lessons to learn.

Now the new project is, how to design a smart interview and communication framework to nail down one of these boys and girls.

A few possible concerns

Financial: Long term lease?
Gender: whatever I can get.
Sexuality: straight-male please; lesbian is ok.
Occupation: student? salary-man?
Personality: outgoing? enigma? quiet? funny? responsible? careless?
Cleaning: shared responsibility.
Schedule: workaholic? otaku?
Cooking: enjoy cooking? ok about me cooking?
Political: conservative/liberal? racist? international figure?
Social: enjoy conversation? party animal? frequent home-stay of gf/bf?
Musical and Cultural: no strong preference on music/anime/movie/TVs? narrowly defined interests? animosity towards Chinese or Japanese culture? (Because I'll play stuff...not deafeningly loud though)
Misc: pets? devices/accessories?

Any other tips? anything too trivial above? Priority list?

Please leave your opinion, thx!

Byebye, Lola

Sat, 05 Apr 2008 06:50:48 GMT

My roomie is breaking up with me.

Good for him though, his 6-year relationship with his gf is finally brought to the next and crucial level. They are moving in together. So basically I'm kidding here by saying "breaking up". And we are still gonna finish X-Files together before he leaves.

Bad news for me is that he's gonna take Lola away from me.

I feel like an adoptive parent robbed of my daughter by her birth parents. My roomie was away all the time and I was the one who has been taking care of Lola.

I have to say goodbye in such ridiculous advance because if I don't do this, the departure will be more unbearable. I'll miss her for sure.

Lola is an unusually loving cat, who has a radar for people.

Whenever I was sitting in the living room in front of my computer, she would walk in quietly, gaze up at me endearingly, and then jump onto my lap like a puma. Then she would turn into such a cute little girl that cares nothing but resting herself in my arms, and constantly look up at my face to see if there is any interest in her on my part, purring out loud with her entire body. OMG, how can I resist such an eager look of this delicate and mysterious creature? So whenever she did that, I had to give her a 30-sec massage.

Late at night, she would silently push my door open and get in my bed, and I stopped using my alarm clock ever since, ...... because SHE SNORES!! BADLY!! I think that's even louder than a human. Recently she even got onto my body, laying her 6-pound fattie on my chest, making it hard for me to breathe.

Scars are now all over my hands, thanks to this fickle little girl. One minute ago she enjoyed my touching, and then she would use violence against the same loving act of mine, maybe simply because she had enough.

Yesterday she just gave me maybe her last souvenir: a deep injury from an accident of her act of love. I was working with my laptop (by definition). She tried to take off from the ground and land onto her everyday airport (my laps), but this time she didn't have enough space because of the laptop, so the unsuccessful landing forced her to pull out her paw before she fell down back to the ground and unfortunately she chose my hand as her last straw, and that HURT!!!!! My blood was sprinkling out before I reached my Band-aid.

Cats are all female. They are attractive and sometimes loving, but you need a little time to understand them, having in mind that deep down, they are independent and ready to bite you if you are ass-kissing too much; they might hurt you badly, but they have their reasons because they go straight to the spot they aim at, without too much looking around, even if it's just a stupid little move that leads them to nowhere.

Paradox

Mon, 24 Mar 2008 03:58:11 GMT

Billy: Everybody should find someone that's slightly less crazier than him/herself.

-- <6 feet under>

Sounds an ill-posed problem: How could we be more XXX than each other at the same time? But I guess the point is that the crazy parts of people tend to parallel, which leads to a possibility for two ridiculous parties to somehow gear towards each other's sweet spot when they work together. We are in the world where no clear predator-prey relationship is defined anymore. The period of serve-and-return gets shorter and shorter. There's gotta be a hole in you, into which your perfect partner could stretch his/her claw without hurting you; rather, it'd quench your itch.

echo's echo of the heart

Fri, 25 Jan 2008 06:18:52 GMT

荷尔蒙先生早安,泡饭小姐晚安

对于潜在对象的挑选,荷尔蒙先生是这样的:
看脸蛋,更看身材.如果三围当中一定要做个取舍的话....杀了他吧
学历不重要,可学历比他高很重要,重要到马上弃置于名单之外.
工作也不重要.总是加班到没时间参与约会这个前戏的工作,就不应该存在于这个社会.
谈吐很重要,装也装出一副谈凡高想着潘玉良谈红楼梦想着金瓶梅的深度.
泡饭小姐对感情这个问题看法如下:
吃西餐干吗呀,不如吃振鼎鸡;
吃振鼎鸡也费钱的,不如在家吃;
在家吃的话......我们吃泡饭吧.
只要人是这个人,吃什么都无所谓.
荷尔蒙先生存在的很天然,启蒙于荷尔蒙既而发乎于情,只要对方同样的接受,那就绝不能违背意愿的止乎于理.男欢女爱,大家MUTUALLY ENJOY.
泡饭小姐不是不能吃西餐,虽然连PIZZA都夹不牢而飞出去;只是她想,吃泡饭很舒服呀.何必正襟危坐那么痛苦的动刀叉呢.
潜在对象确定后,荷尔蒙先生是这样的:
不能太费劲.太费劲得到的,就象老母鸡炖汤,滋味可能不过尔尔,煤气倒费了不少.
开始由不得对方,结束同样不告诉你.3分钟烧开了水,随便我花3小时冷却或者再烧热,对方不得有异议.
这样问题就来了:当荷尔蒙先生恰巧遇见了泡饭小姐,结局如何?
泡饭小姐等着他回来吃泡饭,可惜荷尔蒙先生开始厌倦,并被另一个吃西餐的优雅女士吸引,决定去烧另一壶开水.
荷尔蒙先生永远在开始,适合说"早安".口气清新语调欢快.
泡饭小姐适宜结束.吃点小菜弄点泡饭,不撑也不饱,正好.

echo's echo of the heart